Assumptions can hurt
TGIT... Thank God It's Today
Volume #362 / October 27th, 2014 By Barry Gottlieb
Author, Speaker, Trusted Advisor
Most of us have heard this saying about making assumptions, “When you assume, you make an ‘ass’ out of ‘u’ and ‘me’." We usually laugh when we hear this, and we don’t give it much thought. But sometimes our assumptions can hurt us or others we care about.
One of my favorite books is The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. This is a wonderful book full of wisdom and insights.
The Third Agreement states: “Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life.” This is a very simple concept to grasp. Yet, it is difficult to practice.
Why? Because we have created, over time, the habit of assuming. We have spent most of our lives choosing to assume rather than to communicate.
You have the power to change this.
Imagine how good it will feel to reduce the sadness and drama in your life... and to reduce the misunderstandings and fights with friends and loved ones.
You do have a choice! Here are some action steps
- Become a great communicator
- Start by being a good listener (There is a huge difference between hearing and listening)
- You have two ears and one mouth... Use them in direct proportion
- Don't interrupt others while they are speaking
- Focus on what they are saying rather than on what you are going to say next
- Asks questions if you don't understand
- Pause before you respond... choose your words wisely
- Speak with integrity and honor
- Keep in mind that truth is never afraid of question
Remember... Every day is a gift, and the quality of your life is your gift to yourself